Mali hotel attack victim Anita loved Pune, the city of her roots

“She was fond of our Indian knickknacks, and her visit to Pune was incomplete without spending long leisurely hours in Tulshibaug. During her last visit to Pune she had picked up quite a few tops and sarees,” said Anjali Datar, aunt of Indian-American aid worker Anita Datar, who was one of the 27 victims of the terrorist massacre in Mali on Friday.

Born and brought up in the US, Anita had roots in Pune, which she she loved visiting time and again.

Datar, a senior manager at Palladium, an international development firm, was in Mali on official work and was in Radisson Blu hotel there when terrorists stormed into it.

Anita’s father Ashok Datar hailed from Pune while her mother Sunanda was from Mumbai. In 1984, Anita had even studied at St Mary’s school in the city for six months. During their sojourns to the city, the family of Anita used to always stay with their uncle Kishor Datar. Anita’s last visit to Pune was in January this year, when she also brought here her eight-year-old son Rohan on his maiden visit to India.

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“She had travelled to Delhi in March for official work, but could not visit us due to time constraint. A day before the start of the conference, she had called me and said she would call me at leisure from the US,” Anjali said.

Anita’s father Ashoke had travelled to the US in 1965 and subsequently acquired citizenship there. Both Anita and her brother (who is a doctor practising in San Francisco) were born there. Kishor said his brother used to live in New Jersey.

During her stay in Pune, Anita had enrolled for music classes at the Gopalgyan Samaj near her uncle’s home off Tilak Road. Other than classical music, Anita was fond of playing the flute. “We used to Skype with my brother regularly and once in two-three months, Anita used to join us online. Her work used to keep her very busy and she was given to frequent travels,” Kishor said. In fact, after her visit to Mali, Anita was supposed to travel to Delhi again in December.

Having a fondness of Indian designs, Anita had she had purchased a saree during her last trip to Delhi. “Even in Pune, she had picked up quite a few dresses of various designs. Also, she was fond of accessories,” said Anjali.

The news of her demise had shaken the elderly couple who said they were informed of it by their American relatives.

“We spoke to her parents and still coming to terms with it. The body will be brought to Washington and the last rites will happen there,” he said.

 

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The Unspeakable Horror of Acid Attacks in India

A cafe in the northern Indian city of Agra provides a space where female victims of acid attacks can shed the burden of physical and psychological stigma that a disfigured face entails.

“Sheroes Hangout,” a project of the non-profit Stop Acid Attacks, or SAA, is not your typical cafe – it is anything but conventional.

The cafe’s purpose is not to seek profits but regenerate lives through social integration and psychological rehabilitation – lives of women who have fallen into a limbo due to the violent assaults and heinous chemical burns they have suffered.

Geeta, Neetu, Ritu, Rupa and 15-year old Dolly are five such individuals who exemplify the struggle against a now-systematic scourge of acid attacks, which make young women’s lives a living hell of emotional agony.

The women work in all areas of the establishment – preparing food, serving and interacting with customers, ferrying orders up and down the stairs (the kitchen is on the upper floor) – and all freely share their traumatic stories with visitors.

Rupa, who was attacked in 2008, told EFE she didn’t mind “sharing my story with guests, because then they can share it onward with others, thus creating awareness about acid attacks.”

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She has taken up nearly an entire wall to display her collection of colorful dresses, reaffirming her dream of becoming a fashion designer in spite of the tragic attack.

Adjacent book shelves, meanwhile, feature stories of inspiring figures such as Pakistan’s Malala Yousafzai, who was shot in the head by a Taliban gunman in 2012 for defending women’s right to education, and the late South African anti-apartheid hero Nelson Mandela.

A nearby screen, meanwhile, plays a video documenting the stories of the acid-attack victims.

The women represent a small sample of overall victims of acid-throwing incidents in India, which began keeping records of these crimes in 2013.

According to the country’s National Crime Records Bureau, 309 cases of acid attacks were reported in 2014, or nearly six per week.

The attacks are generally carried out as revenge against women, mostly aged 15-20, often following rejection of romantic advances, and they are followed by a long and painful recovery involving surgeries and costly treatments.

Under a 2013 law, the Indian government must now fully cover the cost of this medical care.

The widespread availability of acid at a price of 30 rupees ($0.45), the same as a half-dozen eggs, makes it difficult for authorities to prevent its use as a weapon.

Despite surgical intervention, the acid attacks lead to lifelong scars that victims tend to keep covered, “not because they like to, but because others expect them to,” SAA project director Parth Sarthi told EFE.

Speaking of the women working in the cafe, Sarthi said, “they used to stay at home, avoid going out or interacting with people, but now they are very lively and talk to you like any other person, because they’ve realized that despite their disfigured face and changed appearance, they are not very different from the rest.”

The cheery colorful cafe is devoid of any covered faces.

“I am always smiling because I’m happy. Before I used to be sad, cry all the time and never left the house,” Dolly, the youngest acid survivor in the cafe, told EFE, flashing a beautiful smile.

 

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Dr. Feelgood is in

Plano resident Aaron Green has played Dr. Frank N. Furter before.

But the aspiring professional actor said he slipped into the good (and bad) doctor’s stilettos to get reacquainted with the iconic, lonely alien at the center of The Rocky Horror Show for Denton Community Theatre.

He literally spent a week in sky-high heels.

“It kind of evolved over time,” Green said. “I first saw the show at 16, I went to Halloween … with giant platform heels. Then last summer, I spent a week doing nothing but walking around in heels.” The 22-year-old played Frank N. Furter in Lakeside Community Theatre’s production last year in The Colony.

But, he said, “I took a step farther this time. I bought stilettos.” Green said it was kind of like riding a bicycle. And then there’s the discomfort.

“It’s terrifying and exhilarating at the same time. They make you feel different, they honestly do. You put them on and about five minutes you get used to the pain,” he said.

Rocky Horror premiered on the London stage in 1973, and led to the cult film The Rocky Horror Picture Show in 1975. It’s a simple story: a fish-out-of-water tale of a young couple, Brad and Janet, who are both chaste and newly engaged. They get stranded by a flat tire and a rainstorm. The pair hurries to an old castle for help, and once they cross the threshold, they’re whipped into the world of a mad scientist-alien who looks like a man who dresses like a woman — Dr. Frank N. Furter.

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Over the course of the night, the doctor initiates the young couple into the ways of seduction, and tries to breathe life into his hunky creation — Rocky Horror. The sculpted bit of beefcake has only half a brain, and how he got even that much is a macabre mish-mash of Frank N. Furter’s dark arts.

Rocky Horror generated a number of fist-pumping and strut-track gems — “Time Warp,” “Sweet Transvestite,” “Rose Tint My World (Floor Show)” and “Touch-a-Touch-a-Touch-a-Touch Me.” The company’s staging is the design of tried-and-true theater folk: Brad Speck steers the ship, and Ray Staniszewski is driving the rock band. Choreographer Amanda Guerrero has coached the performers to choose sensual over raunchy, and Philip Lamb’s projections appear to be among the most exhaustive he’s ever created for the Campus Theatre.

Green said he came to the Campus Theatre to support his girlfriend at auditions. He’d had his run with Rocky Horror, he said. But then he watched the performers take their turns and went back to his car to find some sheet music. He returned to the auditorium, filled out a form and belted out “Sugar Daddy” from Hedwig and the Angry Inch. He read for several roles and landed Frank.

The actor said he knows most people are coming to see the show with the film in mind, and it’s a fact he’s not fighting.

“Tim Curry [the original Frank N. Furter] is the standard to 99 percent of Rocky fans, and I think you have to go into that knowing that,” Green said. “I’m personally not intimidated by Tim Curry. I kind of want to honor him. I like to draw a lot from him, and if one or two people compare me to Tim Curry, I’m more than honored.”

Curry managed to project a determination and self-absorption often associated with romantic, driven heroes. But Curry also basked in a self-satisfied sensuality as Frank. His moves are work-it-girl flashy and come-hither. The music is written for a man’s voice, and Curry’s growling ornamentation is a weird whisk of riot girl bravado and rock ’n’ roll ferocity.

Rocky Horror is on the daring side for Denton Community Theatre. The cast wiggles around in lingerie and sings about sexual fever. Green sports everything from scrubs to a teeny-weeny pair of black underpants, fishnet stockings and garter belts. At times, Green shows an awful lot of skin (and Jaime Rodriguez, as Rocky, shows off a chiseled torso in a pair of skin-tight gold lame short-shorts).

“You know what? I enjoy the skin-baring part of the show, and I think I incorporated more skin than the costumer really wanted,” Green said.

The costumes, which are a clever mix of hard and soft, look luxe. Green said the garments in the show help the cast get into character.

“They feel incredible,” he said. “Putting them on makes you feel really good. As soon as you put it on, you feel wonderful. It makes it that much easier to get across what you’re doing and thinking.”

The Rocky Horror Show is 42 years old, and shows no signs of slowing down. Laverne Cox, a transwoman famous for her performance in the Netflix original series Orange Is the New Black, will play Frank in the upcoming televised version scheduled to air next fall. Green said the message of the show probably keeps fans coming back to see the show on stage and screen.

“I think it’s about honesty,” Green said. “When I think about this show, the first word that comes to mind is acceptance. … Brad and Janet are this conservative, traditional couple, and they come into this world that’s about being open-minded and allowing yourself to be open to more experience.”

 

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Jasaundra Lewis – Alvin Taylor marry at St. Theresa Catholic Church

Miss Jasaundra Janee’ Lewis and Mr. Alvin LeTroy Taylor, II, of Abbeville were united in holy matrimony during a ceremony held on Saturday, September 26, 2015, at St. Theresa Catholic Church in Abbeville.

Father Gregory Cormier officiated the 1 p.m. ceremony.

The bride is the daughter of Janice Hebert and Jason Lewis of Abbeville. Her grandparents are Rita Hebert of Abbeville and the late Mr. and Mrs. John Lewis Sr.

The parents of the groom are Edna and Alvin Taylor, I, of Abbeville. Grandparents of the groom are the late Mr. and Mrs. Eddie Landry Sr., and the late Mr. and Mrs. Joseph Taylor Sr.

Music for the ceremony was provided by Donnie Bolden Jr. Readings were done by Leslie Green, cousin of the groom.

Altar server was Tairus Briggs, friend of the bride and groom.

Serving as ushers were Jamielle Wiltz and Charles Ceasar, friends of the groom.

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Escorted by her father, the bride wore a gorgeous lace trumpet gown with a chic scalloped hemline creating a chapel train.The strapless Gown featured an ultra feminine sweetheart neckline. A beaded sash at the waist created a stunning focal point while the corset back shaped a perfect silhouette. A fingertip length veil with crystal and sequin trim and a silver tiara completed her ensemble.

For her special day, the bride, carried a bouquet of spa and oasis hydrangeas and roses accented with silver and crystal brooches.

Sierra Cessac, cousin of the bride, served as maid of honor and Krishona Levine, sister of the groom, served as matron of honor. They wore identical spa one shoulder, crinkle chiffon, floor length dresses featuring cascading details with a front slit.

Bridesmaids included Sylvia Lewis, Khadijah Cessac, Christy Bruno and Ashley Lewis, cousins of the bride; Asia Scott and Kiara Levine, cousins of the groom and Jamila Rhodes, friend of the bride. They wore oasis floor length chiffon strapless dresses with featured a pleated bodice.

Flower girl was Porsha Henderson, cousin of the bride. She wore an ivory organza dress with spaghetti straps. The bodice consisted of embroidered lace with a spa ribbon around the waist.

Minature bride was Alirah Taylor, daughter of the bride and groom. She wore an ivory organza layered ball gown with spaghetti straps, and a scooped nckline with an empire waist. Her miniature bouquet was of spa and oasis hydrangeas and roses, and she wore a matching tiara and veil as the bride.

The mother of the bride, escorted by the bride’s father, wore a floor length long sleeves lace oasis sequin dress intricately designed with a peplum waist, accented with a silver clasp.

The groom’s mother, escorted by the groom and her husband, wore a spa satin empire floor length dress featuring double criss-cross straps and a sweep train embellished with silver brooch.

Alvin Willis Jr. and Loveless Green Jr., cousins of the groom served as best men. They wore grey Calvin Klein After 6 grey tuxedo with spa vests and accessories.

Groomsmen were Jhordi Henderson, Jhorian Henderson, Skyler Levy, Landry Pillette, Nicholas Levy, friends of the groom; Isaiah Lewis, brother of the bride and Dameon Levine, brother-in-law of the groom. They wore identical grey tuxedos with oasis accessories.

Ring bearer was Jhordi Henderson Jr., friend of the bride and groom, and miniature groom was Alvin Willis, III cousin of the groom.

Following the ceremony, a reception was held at the VN Hall.

Upon their return from a honeymoon cruise to Montego Bay Jamaica, Cozumel, Mexico and the Cayman Islands, the couple will reside in Abbeville.

 

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Many notable performances in Candlelight’s ‘Mame’

Many people have that one aunt – the one who can be counted on for fun and crazy times. The aunt who will drop everything and throw a party for no reason or who can turn almost any event into a party. Candlelight Theatre’s current production of “Mame,” (music and lyrics by Jerry Herman and book by Robert E. Lee and Jerome Lawrence), directed by Jim Reed, thoroughly explores the relationship between just such an aunt and her orphaned 10-year-old nephew.

“Mame” was based on a novel by Patrick Dennis and the play “Auntie Mame” by Lawrence and Lee. In the opening, Patrick Dennis and his nanny, Agnes, travel to New York to meet his flighty aunt, Mame, whom he will be living with after the death of his father. Agnes and Patrick arrive at Mame’s apartment in the middle of a lavish party, fully of eclectic people. Agnes is hesitant to leave Patrick is such a potentially unstable environment, but is soon won over by Mame’s enthusiasm and charm. Mame’s mission is to live life to the fullest, something she hopes to instill in her young charge. Mame is often thwarted by Patrick’s solicitor, stuffy Dwight Babcock, as well as the stock market crash and subsequent depression of the 1930s. But through it all, she remains optimistic and unsinkable, caring for Patrick and even falling in love herself.

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“Mame” has a large cast with many notable performances. Rosemary Benson was terrific as the title character, full of spunk and energy, although her interactions with young Patrick, played by Scott Angelides, often felt more awkward than endearing. Margaret Hill played diva Vera Charles, Mame’s best friend, perfectly. Max Redman was terrific as grown up Patrick. Redman did a nice job balancing his love for Mame with his growing embarrassment for her bohemian lifestyle. At some point, every child is disconcerted by their parent’s behavior. Redman captured the struggle well.

The show had a number of light, funny moments, propelled by performances by the fabulous Lindsay Mauck (Agnes), Ricky Rotandi (Ito), Renee Grant (Mrs. Upson) and Tony Oriente (Mr. Upson). Mauck was delightfully uncomfortable as prim spinster Agnes. Her transformation in Act 2 was stunning and the follow up was hilarious. Grant and Oriente pulled off snotty, well-off elitists well. They were amusingly clueless. Grant was very expressive and her interactions with Mauck at Mame’s apartment were quite funny.

Trudy Graboyes was comical as Mother Burnside. Jim Rubright was the perfect Southern gentleman, polite and charming, as Beauregard Burnside. Barry Gomolka was obnoxious yet entertaining while his character, Babcock, tried to navigate Mame’s eccentric world. Gomolka’s reaction when Angelides expertly mixes a martini was priceless. Patrick’s love interests, Gloria and Pegeen, were well played by Maura McColgan and Jamie Millison.

Reed and Tina Productions, Inc., provided glitzy costumes. I especially liked the dresses for the Southern bells and the red tails the men wore during the same scene. Jody Anderson’s choreography was particularly well done during “Mame” (intricate footwork) and “That’s How Young I Feel.” Lisa Miller Challenger’s wig design was great. Jeff Reim provided a flexible set. He nicely used Mame’s apartment to help explain her changing financial situations – from lavish to shabby and back to plush.

The music was wonderful and included memorable songs such as “Open A New Window,” “My Best Girl,” “We Need A Little Christmas” and “Bosom Buddies.”

Act one moved a little slow. Occasionally the actors appeared uncomfortable with the dialog. The pace picked up in Act two, however.

Before the show, patrons can enjoy Candlelight’s buffet. For “Mame,” the buffet has a holiday theme with carved turkey, stuffing and sweet potatoes with marshmallow topping. There is also ham in a Dijon sauce, beef tenderloin, salmon in a shrimp bisque, green beans and carrots, and stuffed shells. The buffet has a salad and dessert bar as well. A cash bar is available.

“Mame” runs at The Candlelight Theatre, 2208 Millers Road, Wilmington, Del., through Dec. 20. Doors open at 6 p.m. for Friday and Saturday shows. Buffet is from 6-7:30 p.m., followed by the show at 8. Doors for Sunday performances open at 1 p.m. Buffet is until 2:30 p.m., followed by the show at 3. There is one Thursday evening performance on Dec.

 

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Drew Barrymore’s life is in full bloom

“Hold on one second,” Drew Barrymore says for the first of several times.

You hold, and listen to a small voice whimpering in the background, then to Barrymore—her voice so familiar, from as far back as 1982’s “E.T. The Extraterrestrial” to as recently as a “Today” show appearance last month—singing.

“Baby, you,” she sings to her 18-month-old daughter, Frankie. “I got what you need.”

Another moment.

“OK,” Barrymore says, after everything and everyone has seemingly settled down.

It’s a theme now for Barrymore, after a life seemingly lived on impulse. Partying as a child, rehab at an early age, posing for Playboy, two marriages that each lasted about a year. She even flashed David Letterman on national TV.

Now, at 40, Barrymore is married to art consultant Will Kopelman and is the mother of two daughters, Olive, 3, and Frankie, 18 months.

Last month, she released “Wildflower,” a collection of autobiographical essays. Barrymore started to write after she scaled back her acting and work with her production company, Flower Films, to spend time with her daughters.

Work was “a bad man trying to take me away from my kids,” she told me. But writing, well, she could do that anytime—and the time felt right.

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“It felt like a good midpoint, if I may be so lucky,” Barrymore said of writing the book. “I am definitely feeling the most grown-up that I have ever felt, incredibly content with my kids.

“It doesn’t mean that I am perfectly calm and knowledgeable,” she added. “I still feel birdbrained, trying to figure things out. But that quest to find things was gone.”

She landed on the idea of writing little stories—a fun format that she could manage in just two or three hours a day.

“I could think of a story, really focus on it, paint a picture of it,” she said. “I always wanted to write, and so I think that was the first big intention. To write in an unchronological, shuffled deck of cards. I didn’t want to write a memoir. I wanted it to be emotional.”

The stories are heartfelt and funny, written simply and honestly. There are no big revelations that aren’t already known: Her single mother, Jaid, raised her Bohemian-style in West Hollywood, where Jaid studied under acting icon Lee Strasberg, and brought her daughter to class. Over time, Strasberg’s wife, Anna, became Barrymore’s godmother.

Jaid also took her daughter on auditions, and at 6 she was cast by Steven Spielberg in “E.T.” The director is her godfather—and acts the part. In an essay titled “The Blue Angel,” Barrymore writes that when she posed for Playboy, Spielberg sent her a copy of the magazine doctored to look like she was wearing ’50s-style dresses, along with a quilt and a note that read “Cover up.”

And when Barrymore had her first daughter, Spielberg’s wife, Kate Capshaw, sent her a pink leather journal, with a note encouraging her to write every day. She does.

Barrymore’s father, John, was a barefoot mess who drifted in and out of her life before she finally found herself sitting beside his deathbed. Her mother isn’t part of her life, but Barrymore supports her, just as she did when she was a child.

She didn’t hesitate to share anything about her background, or her family.

“If anything, there are probably worse messages out there about them,” she said. “I thought this was more intimate and flattering and nice.”

She didn’t write anything about ex-boyfriends “or too much about my past,” she said. “This was the in-between moments and silly moments and surprising moments and those that influenced me more than I realized at the time.”

If anything, she said, she is more private than ever.

“I feel very old-fashioned about the way we put ourselves out there, and that goes for everyone,” she said, fretting about the effect social media will have on young people.

“I am raising two daughters, and it is a very tricky time. And so I thought, ‘Oh, my God, this book is going to be archaic and old-fashioned,’ and I was nervous about talking to the media.

“But I think it’s a nice respite from that kinetic energy. I was writing a love letter to my children.”

Earlier that day, she had gotten away to a kickboxing class, “and I got completely beat up by the instructor and it was super fun. Me and other middle-aged women with instructors asking them to play this part because it gets the job done.”

She is excited to do a book tour, something different from the usual movie junkets. Real people, real questions.

“I am going to do a reading at each one,” she said. “A little piece of the book, and they can hear my voice and the tone and everything.”

She isn’t sure who will come out to see and hear her, however.

“It will probably be a couple of weirdos and a folding table,” she laughed. “And me there with a Sharpie.”

 

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American Legion Auxiliary fashion show raises funds for new building

The American Legion Auxiliary Unit 524 hosted a fall fashion show and luncheon at The Flanders Hotel benefiting the building fund for the American Legion’s new home at 46th Street and West Avenue.

Over 300 ladies converged on The Flanders, taking a break from watching the Pope on television and leaving husbands at home watching football. Joanne Marzulli wore a cream lace dress when she welcomed me and quickly gathered luncheon committee members Marguerite Clark, Barbara Faith, Cathy Rebl, Donna Baker, Maureen Sabato, Rosemary Molette, Suzanne Fisher, Bonnie Hyson and Nancy Plauschinat together for a picture. Catering director Karen Bergman reprimanded me for crashing through the taped-off dining room to take pictures. Barbara Faith of Avalon baked 330 cookies in the shape of a ladies dress with yellow icing with tiny white pearls around the neck, a goodie for each lady to take home to enjoy. Barbara also found time to create a sea creature cookie tray for the Chinese auction. Marianne Gontis from Somerset, Pa. admitted to being Barbara’s cookie helper. Lynn Brock was looking forward to a big change in her life as she recently sold her home in Ocean City and will divide her time between a townhouse here and an apartment in Center City Philadelphia. Rose Savastano is delighted to be back in her home in Merion Park, finally having it raised after Hurricane Sandy. Michele Gillian and husband Jay are also settled in their new home in the Gardens and the Gillians got a lot of exercise this summer walking from their home to Wonderland on the boardwalk. Sally Huff and this columnist have attended many luncheons and fashion shows over the past 50 years and look forward to many more. Eileen Adams didn’t bother to move her car and just walked over to the luncheon after attending Mass at St. Augustine’s.

Marie Hayes is in great shape as she and husband Lloyd are biking all over town, sometimes as much as 25 miles a day. Marie isn’t going to miss anymore circle meetings after Joan Walker volunteered her to teach next month’s lesson. I checked out the Chinese auction gift packages as I walked down the mirrored hall to the Candlelight Ballroom for lunch. I had a hard time finding Table 20 until I noticed Marion McCaughey and Joanne Budnick waving to me from our table in a corner in the back of the room.

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I joked with Denise Jessel about not having much clout with this group since our table was so far back then figured they knew how rowdy we were, so they put us in the corner. I enjoyed catching up with old friends Pat Brown and Arlene Druck, who were sitting at the next table. Jim and I rented the second floor of Pat and Dick Brown’s duplex on Central Road when we got married in ’62. Arlene’s father, Spence Lightcap, was a sergeant in the Ocean City Police Department when my husband first joined the police force. The three of us had a great time reminiscing about the good old days in Ocean City. Arlene said her grandchildren are the fifth generation living in the family home in Ocean City. Jean Pessano is looking forward to the arrival of her sixth grandchild in February. Denise Tumelty said she has lived in Ocean City for over 60 years and was excited to report her daughter and grandchildren went to Philadelphia to see Pope Francis. Roberta Schulz jogged my brain when she told me she and her husband are neighbors of the Koleas, who host the Republican Club cookouts on their deck with guests overflowing on the Schulz deck.

Peg Kendrick’s granddaughter also went to see Pope Francis. Beverly Osborne is looking forward to visiting her family while traveling this winter. Liz Mossop said Ocean City is her favorite town although she lives in Blue Bell, Pa. and summers in Upper Township at Oak Ridge Camp Ground, where she is good friends with our friends, Sally and Bob Stair. Eleanor Conway didn’t seem to mind that she missed getting her picture taken. Ann Maikner created the programs for the luncheon and Joanne Marzulli wanted to be sure I got her picture. When Joanne invited models Joanne Kocher, Cathy McMenamin, Gloria McDermott and Joan Sambucci to join Ann, they were somewhat reluctant until Barbara Riggione told them “When Cathy calls you, come.” Janet Dershimer enjoyed the luncheon with her granddaughter, Aubre. It was great to see Vivian and Joe DiMassimo enjoying the luncheon and fashion show. Post 524 Cmdr. Bob Marzulli arrived a little late and quickly took the stage to welcome everyone to the luncheon, however, his wife and all the rest of the ladies were disappointed he didn’t wear his uniform. I enjoyed the lunch, salad wrapped in cucumber, chicken francaise, fingerling potatoes and bread pudding, while chatting with Winnie Piriano, Carol Hadtke, Betty Ray, Marion McCaughey, Denise Jessel, Gail Blevin and Alice Wolf.

After lunch, I caught up with the female models in the dressing room changing into their first outfits from Chico’s for the fashion show. Lisa Giorno was helping Joann Kocher, Suzie Fisher, Nancy Plauschinat, Gloria M cDermott, Denise Tumelty, Maureen Sabato, Cass Cebular, Ellen Laut, Cathy McMenamin, Sandy Weisser and Lisa Giorno with their jewelry and scarves to complete their fashions.

John Kocher, a member of the American Legion, handled the sound system and Lisa Giorno served as commentator for the Chico’s fashions while the models walked the runway then circulated around the dining room so the ladies could get an up close look at the fall clothes. Ten members of the American Legion Post 524, Bob Buker, Jack Hagan, Miky Hyson, Rich Laut, Bob Marzulli, Jack Monaghan, Fred Plauschinat, Joe Rebl, Jim Sambucci and Gene Weber, whose wives were running the luncheon, were persuaded to model in the fashion show, however, they were nowhere to be found when it was time to get ready. I finally discovered them enjoying lunch in the sunny solarium off the second floor lobby.

With some prodding from their wives the models changed into their Tommy Bahama outfits and posed for pictures before taking to the runway. Krasimira Kostadinova served as commentator for the men’s fashions while the ladies at the show enjoyed checking out the models when they paraded by each table. When the 10 male models took their bows on the runway, the ladies whipped out their cell phones to take pictures of these handsome guys.

Our table did quite well in the Chinese auction with Marion McCaughey, Winnie Piriano, Gail Blevin and Joanne Budnick taking home nice gift packages. By the time Marion finished scratching off all the lottery tickets in her gift package, she had over $400 and decided to give half back to the American Legion. Denise Jessel won the yellow mum in floral wrap table centerpiece with the closest birthday, but gave it to Gail Blevin to take home. Marion McCaughey, Alice Wolf and I enjoyed chatting with Nicolette Mirra and Gerri Cusato as we headed for our cars after the luncheon.

 

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16 Things To Know About The New ‘Real Housewives Of Potomac’ Show

“The Real House Wives of Potomac” will be premiering in 2016 on Bravo.

Yes, they could have called it “The Real House Wives of Maryland,” but Potomac is a very exclusive town.

If you don’t know anything about Potomac, I’m here to inform you it is a town that mirrors Beverly Hills behavior.

I remember when my friends and I used to joke about a series like this happening years ago when I was in high school, but it’s about time.

Let’s just hope they picked the right women to represent Potomac.

Here are 17 things you need to know about the Potomac social scene prior to watching:

1. If there’s one thing I have learned, it’s that there would be no gossip without secrets. And if you have secrets in Potomac, they will be revealed and used against you. No secret is safe in Potomac.

2. You could relate “The Real Housewives of Potomac” to the cast of “Gossip Girl.” Both are full of frenemies. Go figure that Taylor Momsen (who played Jenny Humphrey on “Gossip Girl”) also grew up in Potomac.

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3. Social circles and cliques in Potomac start in elementary school and never end. In fact, even when people leave Potomac and return years later, they will still be a part of the same social circle.

4. There is always enough drama in this town to last decades.

5. Potomac residents throw over-the-top parties. This includes the wealthy kids of Potomac. I would be less than shocked to hear about a massive party taking place while the Real Housewives are out filming.

6. People from Potomac usually will show up to invitation-only social events, arriving in cars such as a Rolls-Royce, Aston Martin or Ferrari. They will typically be drinking champagne in their designer dresses and talk about whose kid got into a better college.

7. A quiet night for the competitive mothers in Potomac consists of a high-stakes Canasta or Bunco game.

8. Potomac is filled with gated mansions with a full-time staff. Some even have indoor ice rinks, pools and tennis courts. They may also include 50-car garages, fully packed with cars worth $1 million.

9. By far one of the most competitive towns to live in for kids and adults.

10. The most common places to run into these socialites in Potomac are The Potomac Village, Life Time Fitness, Westfield Montgomery Mall, Congressional Country Club (which hosts the PGA), The Canal and new hot spot, the Pony Express Bar & Grill.

11. TV producer, writer and director Darren Bennett Star was born in Potomac and attended Winston Churchill High School.

The original name for the TV show “Beverly Hills 90210” was “Potomac 20854” and it was supposed to be filmed and set in Potomac, MD.

It was changed to “Beverly Hills 90210” because it is more familiar to viewers. However, West Beverly Hills High School’s events and classmates are very similar to Winston Churchill High School’s.

12. Student parking lots at prep and public high schools look like BMW car dealerships.

13. The owner of the Washington Redskins, Dan Snyder lives in Potomac on the famous River Road.

14. In 2013, a census listed Potomac as the wealthiest town in the United States. Also, Forbes listed Potomac as the fifth most highly-educated American small town. This town is frequently referred to as the 1 percent.

15. Bravo could make this town into a movie with all the drama that takes place.

16. I can assure you it will be more dramatic than the flop that was “The Real Housewives of DC.” Especially since these wives fought for a place on the show.

And I can promise you if something big happens in the 20854, it will be known by everyone within 24 hours.

 

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Don’t Say “I Do” to Brand Comparison

This September I experienced one of the best nights of my life: My high school sweetheart proposed.

The outpour of love we received from our family and friends was overwhelming. We had so much fun calling our closest colleagues, enjoying celebratory dinner and drinks with friends, and receiving a plethora of cards full of well wishes.

But as we got deeper into the planning process, I started to lose my sense of elation. It was hard not to compare my ring to the other beautiful rocks (or in some cases boulders) popping up on friends’ Facebook feeds. And the more I flipped through bridal magazines and pinned images on Pinterest, the more I started to doubt my own vision: Were these the right colors for the bridesmaids’ dresses? Is six groomsmen too many? Did I even wear the right dress the night of my proposal?

Basically, I became a victim of self comparison. And the more I compared my dream day to others, the more I refrained from making any decisions at all.

It wasn’t until recently that I came across this quote attributed to Theodore Roosevelt: “Comparison is the thief of joy.” President Roosevelt’s words truly resonated with me, and I realized that I was happier and more confident in my decision-making when I focused on what I truly wanted—instead of trying to constantly meet social media’s standards.

With so much competition in today’s industry, it can be easy for marketers to feel the same pressure: What are their competitors doing? How can they top last year’s campaign? What are people saying about them?

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Granted, it’s important for marketers to be aware of what consumers and competitors are doing in the marketplace; however, this shouldn’t fully determine their brand vision and goals. So even though I’m still fighting this battle myself, I thought that I’d share six pieces of advice for fighting self comparison.

1. Stay focused on your own mission. After my fiancé and I got engaged, we each wrote down three words that we wanted our wedding to encapsulate. Keeping these adjectives in mind has helped us narrow down what we want—and don’t want—from our venue and vendors.

Marketers can perform a similar exercise. Identify what the brand truly stands for and then identify if the team is delivering on those values. There are always going to be distractions, such as what other companies are doing. But straying away from brand values to simply follow the pack can make companies seem inauthentic and cause them to lose loyalty (remember the outcry sparked by New Coke?).

Clearly outlining company goals and values can help marketers determine whether they’re actually delivering on their promises. If they are, they must be doing something right.

2. Let competitors inspire your work; not define it. When I see a center piece or décor element that I like from another wedding, I try to home in on what I like about it. Is it the color? The texture? Then, I try to take that idea and personalize it to fit my overall vision—instead of just copy it.

Marketers should do the same. Did one of your competitors have the campaign of the century? Pick it apart and try to identify what made it so successful. Then, see how those successful tactics could apply to your brand—or if it even makes sense to apply them to your brand. But don’t just dish out a secondhand version of your competitors’ campaign. Consumers can detect a poser a mile away.

3. Be realistic. It’s easy to gawk at the $15,000 wedding dresses on shows like Say Yes to the Dress. But truthfully, that’s just not in my budget—and I have to be OK with that reality. So instead of sulking about how I’ll never have a dress dripping with Swarovski crystals or swan feathers, I look for attire that’s within my price range.

Likewise, marketers have to accept that their dollars might not stretch as far as their competitors’. But marketing isn’t a game of who spends more; it’s a game of who spends smarter. In today’s digital age, there’s a number of ways marketers can drive brand awareness or conversion for relatively little to no money. It’s just up to marketers to find those opportunities and execute on them fully.

4. Make people feel like their voices are being heard. When you start planning a wedding, everyone wants to give you their opinions. I’ve had people weigh in on what my hairstyle should be, why my dress shouldn’t be strapless, and where I should buy my centerpieces. Sometimes, this input can be a bit overwhelming—and that’s putting it kindly. However, I recognize that this day is a celebration for my friends and family, too. So, I try to make them feel like their voices are heard by inviting them to participate in certain activities—like venue shopping—and thanking them for their input (even if I don’t use it). But at the end of the day, I know that I have to ultimately go with what my fiancé and I want. And if I feel like I’m struggling with making a decision, I consult the people who I know truly understand my vision.

Consumers love to provide feedback, too. But that doesn’t mean that marketers should act on every suggestion or complaint made. Marketers do, however, have to make consumers feel like their opinions matter—such as by responding through social media or sending a thank you email after a consumer answers a survey. And marketers shouldn’t write off their feedback right away. Many times consumers can offer key insights into how marketers can enhance the brand experience.

Professionals from other departments can also be tempted to offer marketing their opinions. The key to evaluating feedback—whether it comes from consumers or internal staff—is to assess whether it aligns with the brands’ overall goals. Running these ideas past others who fully understand the company’s objectives is a good idea too. Sometimes, this involves pitching ideas to professionals in other departments, such as IT or customer service. Getting a broader perspective can not only help marketers determine whether the feedback is a good idea, but also whether it’s a feasible one.

5. Have a timeline that works for you. When my fiancé and I first got engaged, my mom encouraged us to start telling our friends and family the good news right away. However, I wanted time to soak in the moment. So, we waited an extra day to start calling people, and we didn’t post anything on social media for a full week—a near lifetime in today’s digital world.

Whether you’re planning a wedding or a campaign, you have to create a timeline that works for you. I think Uwe Ellinghaus, CMO of Cadillac, phrased it best in his Industry Spotlight column about Cadillac’s new marketing strategy: “We’re running a marathon, not a sprint,” he wrote. “It’s easy to get distracted by the day-to-day pressures in an industry that’s still driven primarily by a monthly sales target. We need to constantly remind ourselves not to just do something because ‘that’s how it was always done.’”

Don’t worry about how quickly others are pushing out campaigns or introducing new products. Focus on the quality of your offerings and set deadlines that you know your teams can meet.

6. Know what truly matters. At the end of the day, it really doesn’t matter what color my tablecloths are or whether I went with salmon or fillet as the main entree. What matters is that I’m marrying my best friend. As long as I do that, then the wedding is a success.

Marketers should reevaluate their success metrics, too. It’s easy to obsess over open rates and likes when marketers should really be focusing on whether they’re driving conversion. As long as they’re meeting their main benchmarks, they don’t need to sweat the small stuff.

 

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Channel Changing On Patti Smith’s “M Train,” Where the Lost Are Found

Near the end of her new memoir M Train (Knopf $25), Patti Smith returns from a trip to find the West Village café she considers a second home closed, for good. When she taps on the window, the owner lets her in and offers to make her a last cup of coffee. She sits there all morning in the closed café, the “picture of woebegone” shown on the cover with her camera and her coffee, head propped on one hand while she keeps the other hand palm down on the table, as if to hold it, claim it, keep it until she’s ready to give it up. The cover photo was taken by a bystander with a Polaroid camera like the one Smith uses to illustrate her travels with pictures of stations along the way, her aim being “to possess within a single image the straw hat of Robert Graves, typewriter of Hesse, spectacles of Beckett, sickbed of Keats.” After sitting at her corner table “a long time thinking of nothing,” she picks up her pen and begins to write.

When she says “good-bye to her corner,” the owner gives her the table and chair. It’s a Patti Smith moment.

In M Train, which has been on the New York Times non-fiction best-seller list for several weeks now, Patti Smith withdraws into her own “atmosphere,” and wherever she goes, the atmosphere, like Mary’s little lamb, is sure to follow. The effect on chosen scenes, situations, places, objects, and dreams resembles Keats’s notion of the poetical character, which “has no self … is every thing and nothing … enjoys light and shade” and “lives in gusto, be it foul or fair, high or low, rich or poor, mean or elevated.”

Smith shares the “chameleon poet’s” predilection for the unexpected, for odd, unlikely collisions and confessions, with a tendency to lose things she cares about, as she does her coat, her notebook, her copy of Murakami’s Wind-Up Bird, all of which she brings back in words: “What I have lost and cannot find I remember.”

Arriving feeling “disoriented” at Newark Airport, she has to “snake through hundreds of people going who knows where” to find the right ticket counter, only to be told to use the automated check-in kiosk. After rummaging through her bag for her reading glasses, she’s forced to answer the machine’s questions, scan her passport, and press the (wrong) button, freezing the screen, so that the ticket agent who insisted she use the kiosk has to come over in person and “fork around with a friendly-skies pen” to fix it, producing the boarding pass, which by then is in “a crinkled, dead-lettuce kind of state.” Later, while the plane sits for over an hour on the runway, Smith asks herself, why did she get so “steamed up?” Why couldn’t she “just get into the swing of things” in “the twenty-first century”?

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Not to worry. She knows exactly where she’s going. Her struggle with the chaotic arrival creates an embattled momentum that carries the “Wheel of Fortune” chapter to Casa Azul, the former home of Frida Kahlo and Diego Rivera. There, thanks to a piece of negative serendipity in the form of extreme gastric distress and “a crippling migraine,” she’s invited to rest in Diego’s bed prior to a performance in front of two hundred guests in the garden, which she concludes by singing a song that came to her while she was resting. The chapter ends with a glass of very young tequila and a title: “I closed my eyes and saw a green train with an M in a circle, a faded green like the back of a praying mantis.”

The Polaroid images of Frida Kahlo’s crutches and dress included at the end of the chapter are followed by an image of the platform at the West Fourth Street subway station. If you close your eyes you can almost see the M train.

You never know who you’ll run into on Patti Smith’s train. It might be chess avatar Bobby Fisher, who comes with a combative attitude and ends by sharing duets, hitting the falsetto cry-yi-yi-’s on “Big Girls Don’t Cry” so shrilly that his body guard takes notice. As for the “Wheel of Fortune” chapter, which covers everything from the Golden Fleece, Maria Callas as Pasolini’s Medea, the best coffee in the world in Vera Cruz, to an ink-stained copy of Artaud’s Anthology, Alfred Hitchcock’s “special effects,” and Bach’s Coffee Cantata, the source of the title is not the “card of destiny” Smith draws from her personal tarot deck the night before the flight to Mexico City, but a dream in which she seems to be seeing the neatly manicured hands of gameshow host Pat Sajak, and you think, a-ha, that wheel, the one spun by Vanna White whose presence inspires “a parade of shiny sheath dresses.” Such is the way of things when the poetical character that “lives in gusto” enjoys the “the light and shade” of television imagery, as a spin of the dream wheel takes her from the “damn kiosk” at Newark Airport to 40 winks and the birth of a poem in Diego’s bed.

One of many reasons to watch Steven Sebring’s film Patti Smith: Dream of Life (2009) is to see her smile. It comes and goes, but when it comes it’s big as life, especially when she’s showing us the dress that was her favorite when she was a little girl. The author of M Train seduces smiles from the rider/reader all along the way, as on Valentine’s Day when quoting Wittgenstein’s Tractatus Logico (“The world is everything that is the case”), she imagines printing it “in the center of a paper doily” and depositing it “into the pocket of a passing stranger,” so “maybe Wittgenstein could be my valentine. We could live in a little red house in cantankerous silence on the side of a mountain in Norway.”

What makes riding the M Train so rewarding is the way solemn, eloquent meditations on Genet and Kahlo, William Burroughs and Sylvia Plath are offset by Patti Smith moments like an imaginary dialogue with Nikola Tesla, “the patron saint of alternating currents” or an encounter with a woman toting “an oversized red lizard bag” who dares to occupy the Patti Smith table in her home café, ordering things not on the menu while making numerous cell phone calls to FedEx. Smith deals with the Red Lizard woman by thinking, “If this were an episode of Luther, she would be found faceup in the snow with the objects from her purse arranged about her: a bodily corona like Our Lady of Guadalupe.” After her “inner Jiminy Cricket” scolds her for harboring “such dark thoughts for the sake of a corner table,” she seems to repent (“May the world’s small things fill her with delight” and “may she purchase a lottery ticket and possess the winning number”), only to end by imagining the table thief trapped by “a storeroom’s worth” of red lizard bags, “without food, water, or cell phone.”

Smith’s reference to Luther, the super-violent, noirish London detective drama aired on BBC America, reflects a preoccupation with television sleuths in M Train comparable to her addiction to strong black coffee. One such detective, The Killing’s Sarah Linden, becomes a presence in the book, entering the narrative with her partner Stephen Holder in an early chapter (“Changing Channels”) when Smith decides to stay up late watching TV with an obstinate channel changer that “needed to be tapped into awareness” and talked to before it gives her the “crime shows” she needs (“Yesterday’s poets are today’s detectives …. They entertain and sustain me …. I walk with them, adopt their ways, suffer their failures”).

Flash forward to a Memorial Day weekend spent in the city with detectives Linden and Holder, “ready to be comrade to their mute misery, swilling cold coffee in a battered car during a bleak stakeout.” After describing with novelistic intensity The Killing’s crowning episode in a chapter titled “How Linden Kills the Thing She Loves,” Smith laments, “Linden has lost everything and now I am losing her. A television network has snuffed The Killing …. But I am not ready to let her go and I do not want to move on.” The chapter ends with a sentence that could serve as a coda for Smith’s book of quests, tributes, and dreams: “There is only one directive: that the lost are found; that the thick leaves encasing the dead are parted and they are lifted into the arms of light.”

The passion of Smith’s involvement should speak to compulsive viewers of the cable series renaissance and its manifold diversions, whether in the form of crime shows like True Detective, Broadchurch, or Foyle’s War, or twisted wonders like Breaking Bad and Game of Thrones. For months I’ve been pondering a column about characters like Ruth Wilson’s Alison Lockhart in The Affair, Eva Green’s Vanessa Ives in Penny Dreadful, or Carrie Coon’s Nora Durst in The Leftovers, and the way they figure in the narrative of our television lives much as Mireille Enos’s Sarah Linden figures in Patti Smith’s. After lamenting the loss of Linden, Smith asks: “What do we do with those that can be accessed and dismissed by a channel changer, that we love no less than a 19th-century poet or an admired stranger or a character from the pen of Emily Brontë? What do we do when one of them commingles with our own sense of self, only to be transferred into finite space within an on-demand portal?”

What Patti Smith did, along with many other fans of The Killing, was make her wishes known until Netflix agreed to give Sarah Linden closure by backing a binge-worthy final season, in which the author of M Train performs a cameo as a doctor. It’s another Patti Smith moment.

 

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